In today’s world, although there is a lot of death in the news, in the papers and on television, death is not something that people like to talk about. As a result, many people feel embarrassed and do not know what to say, or do, when someone dies.
The death of a loved one or a close friend will cause very strong emotions, some of them new and unexpected, some confusing and distressing. On top of your grief and feeling sad or angry, it is quite possible that you will also feel lonely – even ‘deserted’ by your friends or family – just at the time when you need their comfort and support the most.
Friends and acquaintances come to the funeral but then assume that life goes on as it did before and expect you to ‘get over it’ and get back to ‘normal’ as if nothing has changed. When you want to talk about the person who has died, they change the subject. Because they have not been through this experience they do not understand, but that does not make it any easier for you.
At Cancer Connections we are pleased to help anybody affected by cancer. All of our members have been affected by cancer in some way or another, and that includes losing a husband or wife, brother or sister, a child, a grandparent or a friend.
- If you would like to talk with someone about the person who has died, we are happy to listen.
- If you are not sure how to go about practical things, our experience may be able to help. If you wish, we can help you with your arrangements for a funeral.
- If you are really struggling to cope with your loss and don’t know where to turn we have special counsellors who are experienced in helping people who have been bereaved.
If you think we could help, come to Cancer Connections or telephone 0191 456 5081 for more information.
We are open Monday to Friday 9am - 5pm at 258 Harton Lane, South Shields NE34 0LR.
It's good to talk, especially if it's cancer.