In general it is true that ‘men don’t talk about cancer’ but that does not mean that they don’t want to talk about it – especially if they or their wife has been diagnosed with it.
In a questionnaire that we sent to residents of South Tyneside two thirds of men who replied (67%) said that if they had cancer they would like someone to talk to about it.
Coping with the news, taking time off work for tests and treatment, unable to work while you are recovering, worrying about money, anxious about your job, not wanting to upset your wife or partner, too embarrassed to talk about it with friends or colleagues – all of these things can have a serious effect on family life and on yourself as a person.
Talking about it in the family can be a great help, but many men find this difficult: “My boys look up to me, I can’t let them down” or “my wife is wonderful but she shouldn’t have to worry about this”.
In this situation, talking with someone outside the family, but not at hospital, who has had the same or a similar cancer can be a great help.
Come to Cancer Connections – by yourself, in confidence, or as a couple, or bring the whole family.
You can see someone in private, or meet new friends with whom you can share your experiences, and find advice or practical help if that is needed.
We are open Monday to Friday 9am- 5pm at 258 Harton Lane, South Shields NE34 0LR or call 0191 456 5081 for more information.